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Parenting Teens Online Class: Guiding Without Controlling

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Thu, 06/22/2017 - 17:12

Dear Parents,

Have you ever seen that mom that can turn on the tears in an instant to get her teenager to do what she wants them to do, or that dad who has a certain look that brooks no argument whatsoever? Did you have a parent that was able to elicit the desired response from you whether you agreed or not? Are you a parent that can be manipulative or coercive with your teen?

Parents will often tell me that they just want what’s best for their teenager. And I believe them. But, unfortunately, so many parents go about it the wrong way. They try to control their teens instead of guide them. And there is a very big difference!

Guiding them teaches your teenager the power they have in making a choice. It teaches them that they are responsible for any consequence that may come with their choice. Trying to control them through manipulation only pushes the growing young adults far from the wise choices we are so desperate for them to embrace.

Take a moment and ask yourself this question. “Do I control or guide my teenager?” And be very honest in your answer!

The great thing about this is that it is not too late to begin again!

Check out this month’s video that focuses on how we guide our teenager without controlling them. I hope this is a help to you!

https://goo.gl/Z26qSL

 

The difference between controlling and guiding your teenager is a pretty important topic!

It can make the difference between a healthy, growing relationship or a struggling one with your teenager!
Now we know that every teenager is different and needs different types of guidance. But one thing that is the same in all teenagers is their passionate desire for independence. And it often seems that they are constantly, almost intentionally, choosing the opposite of what we think is wise!

I don’t know about you, but that sounds an awful lot like my relationship with God! How many times have you made a decision or choice only to realize God was working in the situation the entire time? But did He ever once force you to choose His way or did He give you the freedom to make your own decision?

The crazy thing about the love of God is that it came first! John 15:16 says, “You did not choose Me, but I chose you…” And that is the very thing we can relate to as a parent! We know that same kind of love when it comes to our teenagers. And the way we choose to love God back is by humbling our free will to His will. We don’t always do it, and neither do our teens.

Here are a few ideas that will help you guide your teen and not control them.

  • Agree on a signal that your teen can use when they feel like you are trying to control them. But you both have to be willing to listen to the other persons viewpoint!
  • Don’t try to rescue them from the natural consequences of their own choices! That’s a really tough one!
  • Make sure that always know that your love is not dependent on their decisions. You will always be there for them.
  • Know that you won’t always agree with your teen’s choice. And they shouldn’t ask you to!
  • Recognize when you need to step in to a situation that your teen is not equipped to handle. Prayer is absolutely necessary for discernment.
  • Just remember that your teenager is becoming an adult and you are the best one to parent them through this.

Otherwise God would never have chosen you to do it!

Tweetable Thoughts

  • Controlling and guiding are two very different things! #remember
  • Ask your teenager’s opinion on what they think the difference is!
  • Agree on a signal that allows your teen to tell you they feel they are being controlled.
  • Our free will is our greatest gift to Him!
  • Don’t rescue your teen from a consequence, but let them know you are there!
  • We love God because He first loved us! Do we love our teenager that way?
  • Don’t forget He chose you to be your teenager’s parent! #youcandothis
  • John 15:16 “You did not choose Me, but I chose you…”
    Encourage your teenager today by telling them you believe in them! #biggestcheerleader
  • Your teenager watches you more than they listen to you! #speaktruthwithoutwords

Feel free to forward this email to other parents of teenagers and have them email me if they would like to join our online parenting class.

 If you want to see previous issues you can view them here:  http://blog.churchoftherock.ca/tag/parenting-teens-online-class

Tim Hamm – Threshold Jr (Grade 6-8) – tim@churchoftherock.ca
Mathew Povey – High School Ministry (Grade 9-12) – mathew@churchoftherock.ca

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Engage – Thursday, June 22nd – Love Winnipeg

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Tue, 06/20/2017 - 00:57

Love Winnipeg Water Bottles
Thursday, June 22
7:30pm

AVM Courtyard

We are meeting at the University of Manitoba,
Arthur V. Mauro Residence Courtyard
at 7:30pm to distribute free water bottles to students!

Love Winnipeg is all about showing Jesus’ love to anyone at anytime,
and of course, Jesus’ love is free!

By participating in this simple act of kindness,
we show people that because of Jesus’ love for us,
we are able to show other’s love too, even through a water bottle.

Don’t forget to wear your yellow Love Winnipeg shirts!
Or if you don’t have one, wear any yellow shirt so we look cohesive.

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High School Ministry Weekly June 23rd

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Mon, 06/19/2017 - 19:28


This week…


School’s Out Party

June 23rd @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
Our final event of the school year!  We’ll be ended this year with a bang!  We will fill the night with food & fun! Bouncy games and some free pizza if you’d fancy that! Also, if you are in Grade 12 we have something specifically for you!

Next week…

We take a couple of weeks off before we do our summer programming!  We will be having a Bible study every Monday night in July in the youth room from 7:00pm-9:00pm for High School Students (includes those going into grade 9).  Tuesdays will be the majority of our summer events.  Stay posted!

In July…

Bible Study!
7:00pm-9:00pm
July 3rd, 10th, 17th, 24th & 31st
We will be going through one of the books in the Bible together as a group.  We will have snacks, worship and chilling out in the youth room.

Next time we meet…

Bubble Soccer
July 11 – 7:00pm-9:00pm – Free
Our first event of the summer is a fun one!  Join us as we hang out and play Bubble Soccer together, or just hang out!  Meet at the youth room – see you there!


By the way!  For at least 2 years we have been supporting Simon Munyaneza as our sponsor child!  We hope that our students might have the opportunity to be generous through this sponsorship.  We take an offering almost every Friday and invite our students to participate.  All of the money goes straight to Simon!

MONTHLY CALENDAR

  Click here for this month’s calendar

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Threshold Jr – June 21 – School’s Out Party!

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Mon, 06/19/2017 - 18:44
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THIS WEEK (Grade 6-8)

 School’s Out Party!

Our last Threshold Jr of the school year so we party!!
FREE!! Archery Tag, Bouncers, Hot Dogs!!
Parent-signed form needed: http://churchoftherock.ca/thresholdjr-forms

Wednesday June 21, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 


NEXT WEEK

 NO THRESHOLD JR UNTIL JULY 11

NEXT EVENT

Tuesday July 11
Bubble Soccer

One part soccer, one part sumo suit = hilarious fun!
Also hang out in the cage!
Waivers are needed.  Available  soon

Tuesday July 11, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 

 

MEET OUR SPONSOR CHILD!

Each week we collect an offering
for our sponsor child Simon
& for other missions projects

 

MONTHLY CALENDAR

Click here for this month’s calendar

 

If you no longer wish to receive these emails, please reply and say “Unsubscribe” (DO NOT click on the “Unsubscribe” link below).

Church of the Rock 1397 Buffalo Place Winnipeg, MB R3T 1L6 Phone: (204)261-0070 or 1-877-700-ROCK (7625) Email: tim@churchoftherock.ca (Tim Hamm)

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Re-post: The Scourge of Injustice

Just Call Me Pastor - Mon, 06/19/2017 - 12:31

During our prayers this morning Kathleen and I discussed the subject of injustice — what happens when the lawful rights of a person or a group are violated by those in power who have unlawful goals. Injustice can deaden a marriage, divide a home, rend a state, or even taint a church.

Christians around the world these days are reading about injustice — the story of a whole series of towering legal offenses committed against our Lord which led to his brutal death on a Roman cross.

The Gospels tell the story.

The religious authorities — the chief priests, elders and other religious leaders — agreed among themselves that Jesus had to be arrested. The high priest, Caiaphas, went a step further: he suggested he must die. But it all had to be planned and carried out by stealth, without stirring up the crowds streaming into Jerusalem for Passover.

From that point on, the religious leaders ignored their laws because their intentions were sinister. Even Pilate, the Roman governor, saw through their plots. He knew that justice was not their issue; he knew they were motivated by sheer “envy.”

Judas, the traitor, helped them, and the temple guards arrested and bound Jesus in Gethsemane, outside the city. They and their accomplices had come armed with weapons in case they had to subdue him, or torches if he should hide and they had to search for him. They marched him to the high priest’s palace and there the nation’s highest religious leaders began breaking Jewish laws with abandon.

William Barclay lists some of the laws they broke — laws which should have protected an innocent man.

1. Criminal cases had to be tried during daylight hours and on the final day must be completed before darkness fell.

2. Criminal cases may not be tried during Passover.

3. Only if the verdict is “not guilty” may a case be completed during the same day it begins. Otherwise, a night must elapse before the verdict is decided, to give mercy time to arise.

4. A judgment by the Sanhedrin, the ruling court of Jerusalem, must not be rendered unless the body is convened in its normal place of meeting – the Hall of Hewn Stone in the precincts of the temple. (There was to be no “offhand curbside justice.”)

5. All evidence must be given by at least two witnesses who are permitted no contact with each other and who are examined separately.

6. In capital cases, the giving of false witness may be punishable by death.

Between the middle of that night before the high Priest and Sanhedrin and the forenoon of the next day when Jesus was nailed to his cross, every one of these laws was broken. Our Lord not only was falsely accused, he was then struck and spit upon by members of the court.

These hasty and lawless procedures amounted to one of the most glaring abuses of law on human record. It was a travesty of justice and it all led to the brutal killing of an innocent man — the world’s Redeemer.

Jesus subjected himself to this injustice for a reason. When Peter attempted to protect him with a clumsy swing of his sword, Jesus said to Peter, “Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels? (Matt. 26:53). But he did not call. He made himself vulnerable to the worst injustice in order to fulfill the Scriptures.

We have to immerse ourselves in the story again and again, detail after detail, to awaken our dull hearts to the price paid for our salvation. The undeserved physical abuse was horrific at the hands of evil men. And the spiritual anguish even worse which made him cry out “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Ps. 22:1). He was indeed “led like a lamb to the slaughter” (Isa. 53:7b).

As the truth sinks in and our sense of gratitude is awakened afresh, we also ask that God make us alert to injustice in our world or even in our marriages or families or church, helping us to avoid the indifference to injustice that the religious leaders of Jesus’ day showed.


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High School Ministry Weekly June 16th

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Tue, 06/13/2017 - 20:04


This week…


Survive College
June 16th @ 7:11pm—10:00pm
Some of you are transitioning to the next part of your life journey!  We will have a few College Themed Ideas as well as speak a little bit about college!  We will also finish up our last series called Limitless!

Next week…

School’s Out Party

June 23rd @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
Our final event of the school year!  We’ll be ended this year with a bang!  We will fill the night with food & fun!  If you are in Grade 12 we have something specifically for you!

The week after that…

We take a couple of weeks off before we do our summer programming!  We will be having a Bible study every Monday night in July in the youth room from 7:00pm-9:00pm for High School Students (includes those going into grade 9).  Tuesdays will be the majority of our summer events.  Stay posted!


By the way!  For at least 2 years we have been supporting Simon Munyaneza as our sponsor child!  We hope that our students might have the opportunity to be generous through this sponsorship.  We take an offering almost every Friday and invite our students to participate.  All of the money goes straight to Simon!

MONTHLY CALENDAR

  Click here for this month’s calendar

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Threshold Jr – June 14 – Small Group Pizza Party!

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Tue, 06/13/2017 - 19:34
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THIS WEEK (Grade 6-8)

Small Group Pizza Party

It’s our last small group of the school year, so let’s look back on the year that was, and eat some FREE PIZZA!  Also we present THE THRESHIE AWARDS!

Wednesday June 14, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 


NEXT WEEK

 School’s Out Party!

Our last Threshold Jr of the school year so we party!!
FREE!! Archery Tag, Bouncers, Hot Dogs!!

Wednesday June 21, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 

 

MEET OUR SPONSOR CHILD!

Each week we collect an offering
for our sponsor child Simon
& for other missions projects

 

MONTHLY CALENDAR

Click here for this month’s calendar

 

If you no longer wish to receive these emails, please reply and say “Unsubscribe” (DO NOT click on the “Unsubscribe” link below).

Church of the Rock 1397 Buffalo Place Winnipeg, MB R3T 1L6 Phone: (204)261-0070 or 1-877-700-ROCK (7625) Email: tim@churchoftherock.ca (Tim Hamm)

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Engage – Thursday, June 15 – Wet & Wild Wind-up

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Tue, 06/13/2017 - 05:01

Wet & Wild Wind-up
Thursday, June 15th
7:30pm
West Parking Lot 

We’re having a summer wind-up party
and you’re invited!

We’ll have a slip n’ slide, water balloons,
and other fun games.
Plus a FREE BBQ,
and a bonfire to finish the night.

Don’t forget your towel as you won’t be staying dry.
You don’t want to miss this night!
See you in the West Parking Lot at 7:30pm.

Graduating Youth
You’re invited too!

If you know of any youth who are graduating this year
who want to check out what Young Adult’s is all about,
this is a great event to attend.

We’re pretty laid back and this event will be lots of fun.
Besides, who doesn’t like free food

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Re-post: Renewing Fatherhood on Father’s Day

Just Call Me Pastor - Mon, 06/12/2017 - 11:00

As both a calling and a developed skill, has fatherhood lost its nobility in society generally? Or is fatherhood doing reasonably well and complaints to the contrary are contradicted by the facts? The answer is somewhere between, but leaning toward the gloomier side.

Consider this prophetic statement by David Blankenhorn, in his book Fatherless America (1995): “The good news, largely ignored in today’s script, is that married fatherhood is a man’s most important pathway to happiness.” Blankenhorn makes this claim even though in his book he portrays an American culture in which fatherhood is not seen as a widespread blessing.

He writes that over the past two hundred years, fatherhood has lost, in full or in part, each of its four traditional roles:

1. Irreplaceable caregiver. 2. Moral educator. 3. Head of family, and, 4. Family breadwinner (with the understanding that sometimes this role has to be shared or reversed).

Blankenhorn writes, “In 1990 more than 30 percent of all children [in the United States] were living apart from their fathers – more than double the rate of 1960.” He goes on to say, “Scholars estimate that before they reach age eighteen, more than half of all children in the nation will live apart from their fathers for at least a significant portion of their childhood.”

But that is only one side of the picture. The late esteemed newsman, Tim Russert, wrote a warm, affirming book about his father. It so moved his readership that it brought Russert nearly 60,000 letters and e-mails. Day after day he read them to the very last one and out of them came his second book, Wisdom Of Our Fathers, Lessons and Letters From Daughters and Sons.

The missives he received were overwhelmingly, though not entirely, positive. They described fathers who had been there for their children, had taken time for a bedside story, turned up at a spelling bee, played catch with them in the yard, and at times of need had given them good counsel.

They were not super-dads. The letters from grown children, according to Russert, admit there were flaws. But the commitment of which the children wrote was such that it has left an enduring imprint on their children’s memories.

Now a new e-book, The Demise of Guys, available on Amazon.com, addresses the picture more darkly. It speaks with insight of the malaise among the general population of young men today. The book notes quite broadly a lack of energy among young men to make full preparation for a full life, the lack of interest in developing long-term relationships with women, certainly lack of motivation to get out on their own and make their own way in life. This phenomenon is obvious enough that it keeps coming up in other social opinions spoken or printed.

The author of The Demise of Guys traces the causes that he believes have contributed to this state of affairs – such as excessive time spent during developing days on the internet, video games and especially the hurtful, pervasive influence of pornography. He explains the effect these addictions have on the brain to deaden the pleasure zones and motivations for a fulfilling life.

The celebration of Father’s Day this June 17 brings this conflicted issue of fatherhood back into focus. It would be a good Sunday on which to look at the two contrasted above pictures of fatherhood.

It would be a good Sunday for Christians everywhere to gather and pray unitedly for the fathers in their connections. And it could be made a time for fathers themselves to ask their HEAVENLY FATHER to father them afresh, giving grace to embrace their four assignments — Irreplaceable caregiver, moral educator, head of family, and family breadwinner (noting that this role must sometimes be shared or reversed) — with divinely endowed courage.

Photo credit: JeffS (via flickr.com)


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Threshold Jr – June 7 – Love Winnipeg: Got Water?!?

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Mon, 06/05/2017 - 19:58
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THIS WEEK (Grade 6-8)

 Love Winnipeg: Got Water?!?
**6:45 – 9:15pm **

Parent-signed forms needed: churchoftherock.ca/thresholdjr-forms
We will be bussing to Osborne Village to “Love Winnipeg”
by handing out water to people on the street.
Followed by hangout in the park

Wednesday June 7, 2017
6:45 p.m. – 9:15 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 


NEXT WEEK

 Small Group Pizza Party

It’s our last small group of the school year, so let’s look back on the year that was, and eat some FREE PIZZA!

Wednesday June 14, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 

 

MEET OUR SPONSOR CHILD!

Each week we collect an offering
for our sponsor child Simon
& for other missions projects

 

MONTHLY CALENDAR

Click here for this month’s calendar

 

If you no longer wish to receive these emails, please reply and say “Unsubscribe” (DO NOT click on the “Unsubscribe” link below).

Church of the Rock 1397 Buffalo Place Winnipeg, MB R3T 1L6 Phone: (204)261-0070 or 1-877-700-ROCK (7625) Email: tim@churchoftherock.ca (Tim Hamm)

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High School Ministry Weekly June 9th

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Mon, 06/05/2017 - 16:41


This week…


Love Winnipeg
June 9th @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
Every year we go out of our way to show love to our city!  This year we are handing out water bottles in Osborne Village and blessing people as they pass by!  This is a great way to show the love of Jesus is practical ways.  We meet at the church!

Next week…

Survive College
June 16th @ 7:11pm—10:00pm
Some of you are transitioning to the next part of your life journey!  We will have a few College Themed Ideas as well as speak a little bit about college!  We will also finish up our last series called Limitless!

The week after that…

School’s Out Party

June 23rd @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
Our final event of the school year!  We’ll be ended this year with a bang!  We will fill the night with food & fun!  If you are in Grade 12 we have something specifically for you!


By the way!  For at least 2 years we have been supporting Simon Munyaneza as our sponsor child!  We hope that our students might have the opportunity to be generous through this sponsorship.  We take an offering almost every Friday and invite our students to participate.  All of the money goes straight to Simon!

MONTHLY CALENDAR

  Click here for this month’s calendar

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Re-post: Is Our Problem Pride or Low Self-Esteem?

Just Call Me Pastor - Mon, 06/05/2017 - 11:00

This month a teacher told her students that if they planned to give out Valentine cards, the cards must meet these rules: every card must be the same; every classmate must get one; and nothing must be written on them. She wanted to save any child from damaged self-esteem.

But recently Professor Baumeister at Florida State University studied levels of self-esteem among different groups of adults. He found the highest levels in … prison inmates! And the violent offenders had the highest perceived levels of them all.

Self-esteem is critically important. We are God’s creatures, bearing his image. Therefore it is right that we should carry ourselves with dignity and should be careful to honor the dignity and worth of our fellows.

But the Scriptures make clear that damaged self-esteem is not our greatest problem. According to the Bible we are the offspring of Adam and, although we bear the image of God, that image is marred; we are by nature sinners.

One consequence of that sin is that we have a proud desire to be independent from God — on our own in his universe. That was the error of the builders of the tower of Babel (Genesis 11:1-9).

The Genesis passage says the people moving eastward found a beautiful plain between the Euphrates and Tigris rivers and decided to settle there, build a city, and erect a tower that would reach to the heavens. The up-reaching tower was a symbol of man’s thrust for autonomy.

But the Lord came down to see the city and the tower, and he discerned the people’s intent to seek complete autonomy rather than living under his mandate to settle the earth he had given them. So he confused their language and “scattered them over all the earth” (Genesis 11:8).

We see this impulse toward autonomy early in children. One of our grandsons, at the age of only four, said to his mother in a commanding way, “Mommie, I want you and Daddie to let me and my sister do whatever we want to do.” It was given as a first cry of the heart for absolute autonomy — “Don’t fence me in.”

Theologians have followed the Scriptures in noting this impulse to pride which at its center resists the rule of God and his son, Jesus Christ. St. Augustine called human pride, “the love of one’s own excellence.” John Calvin defined it as an “innate self love by which we are all blinded.” John Wesley wrote: “The first advice I would give those who have been saved is to watch continually against pride.”

To be graciously delivered from pride by God is a worthy request because, as Charles Spurgeon said, “Humility is the secret of fellowship, and pride, the secret of division.” It is true that wherever there is unresolved conflict, whether in home, family, community or church, secondary causes might be teased to the surface. But at the base, this pride will be found to lurk.

Heart pride is divisive. It erects barriers. On the other hand, where there is heart humility there is joy and good fellowship among the people whether in family, community, or church.

Which makes the words of the Apostle Paul to the young church in the imperial city of Rome my favorite instruction to any church on this issue: “For by the grace given me I say to everyone of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you” (Romans 12:3).


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Parenting Teens Online Class: Investing in a Strong Relationship

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Thu, 06/01/2017 - 16:03

Dear Parents,

Investing in a relationship with your teenager is not a new concept. To any of us. As parents, I would tell you nothing new if I said that you should spend time with your teenager to encourage a closer relationship. You already know this. You know that you should spend face to face time with your teen when they have your undivided attention. You know that it is important to spend shoulder to shoulder time with your teenager when you are doing something with them that they enjoy.

Yes, you know in your head all the “right” things you, as a parent, should do to invest in building a stronger relationship with your teenager. Then there is the proverbial “but” that we all throw in when contemplating just how to make this work out realistically.

“But” my teenager is always buried in their phone!

“But” my teen always just wants to be with their friends!

“But” my teenager just won’t talk to me!

“But” my teen doesn’t even seem to notice me let alone like me.

For some reason, we tend to gauge our effectiveness and success as a parent according to our teens current reactions and responses. We must remember that our teenagers are still trying to figure out who they are in this big world, so their reactions and responses are often the result of pure emotion.

I want to encourage you to look past all of their reactions and responses and keep building that relationship! Even when it seems you are the only one that seems to care. That’s hard! But then what part of this parenting journey hasn’t been difficult to some extent? Can I remind you that the rewards are well worth it?

Remember when you had to watch them fall time and again when they were learning to walk, and the time you had to walk away on the first day of kindergarten, or the time you held them as they cried because their best friend decided to have a different best friend?

There are going to be times when our teens are just not going to understand our motives. And that’s ok. As long as they know we love them, they can trust us even if their phone is permanently attached to their hand!

Here’s a quick video with more thoughts: https://goo.gl/uLT5ux

 

Did you know that the meaning of relation is “being connected to, or linked to.” It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that meaning. The “ship” of relationship means “state of being.” So basically, the word “relationship” means the state of being linked or connected to another person. Hmmm.

My mind cannot wrap itself around the fact that the great God of this universe which He made in just a few short days not with the sweat of His brow but by the mere sound of His words desires the “state of being connected” to us! Mind blowing but true.

So let me take a step back for just a minute. He wants to build a strong relationship with me, His child. I want to build a strong relationship with my teenager, my child. So we are truly not alone in this parenting thing, are we? He knows the frustration of not being listened to, of being ignored, of being disobeyed. He knows how I feel as a parent!

I know, some of you who read this are saying, “Yeah, but He is God!” Which means He knows what He is doing, and we, as parents, can trust that! We mess up, but He doesn’t. How awesome is it to know a parent who has never once messed up in parenting their child!

There is a verse in Matthew 11 that I truly believe was put there, because God knew that parents would desperately need to hear it. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and LEARN from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light!”

As a parent, one of the greatest things you will ever invest in is a strong relationship with your teenager. Ask God how it’s done! Search His word and learn how Jesus invested in those He mentored! He wants you to have a strong relationship with your teenager as much as He wants one with you!

Tweetable Thoughts

  • Matthew 11:28- 30 “Learn from me…” #Godspromises
  • If your teenager loves to text, then text them daily!
  • Ask for your teenager to give you ideas on what they think is something fun to do! #betterideasthanmine
  • Tell your teen you love them.  Daily.  Even if you never have before!
  • You are born into relations.  You choose to build relationships!
  • Look what happened to Wall Street during the Great Depression when everyone pulled their investments out!  Don’t quit investing in your relationships!
  • Did you know that all ten commandments are about relationship?  That’s how important it is to God!
  • Relationship is the state of being connected.  Have you connected today?
  • He said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” #Ineedanap, #parentingcanfeellonely
  • Parenting doesn’t have to be lonely.  You just have to look up! #Wearehereforyou,

Feel free to forward this email to other parents of teenagers and have them email me if they would like to join our online parenting class.

 If you want to see previous issues you can view them here:  http://blog.churchoftherock.ca/tag/parenting-teens-online-class

Tim Hamm – Threshold Jr (Grade 6-8) – tim@churchoftherock.ca
Mathew Povey – High School Ministry (Grade 9-12) – mathew@churchoftherock.ca

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Engage – Thursday, June 1 – Life Savers

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Wed, 05/31/2017 - 19:55

Life Savers
Thursday, June 1st
7:30pm
Youth Room 

Are you a life saver??

Know how to start a fire without marches,
change a tire, or sew a button?
With these life skills you’re sure to be a life saver!

Join us in the Youth Room  at 7:30pm
to learn some essential skills for survival
and we’ll award you with Life Savers candy!

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Threshold Jr – May 31 – Love Winnipeg – Backpacks for the Homeless **Donations needed

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Mon, 05/29/2017 - 20:28
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THIS WEEK (Grade 6-8)

Love Winnipeg
We will be packing backpacks for homeless
people in Winnipeg!
Donations needed!
New or Gently-Used Items:
Backpacks (for adults), mitts, toques, scarves, blankets

New Items:
Deodorant, sanitary napkins, socks, long underwear, toothbrushes,
toothpaste, soap, body wash, body lotion, shampoo, conditioner,
disposable razors, granola bars, bottles of water, juice, travel mugs,
pocket size Kleenex, decks of cards, lip balm, hard candy

Wednesday May 31, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 


NEXT WEEK

 Love Winnipeg: Got Water?!?
**6:45 – 9:15pm **

Parent-signed forms needed: churchoftherock.ca/thresholdjr-forms
We will be bussing to Osborne Village to “Love Winnipeg”
by handing out water to people on the street.
Followed by hangout in the park

Wednesday June 7, 2017
6:45 p.m. – 9:15 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 

 

MEET OUR SPONSOR CHILD!

Each week we collect an offering
for our sponsor child Simon
& for other missions projects

 

MONTHLY CALENDAR

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Church of the Rock 1397 Buffalo Place Winnipeg, MB R3T 1L6 Phone: (204)261-0070 or 1-877-700-ROCK (7625) Email: tim@churchoftherock.ca (Tim Hamm)

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High School Ministry Weekly June 2nd

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Mon, 05/29/2017 - 14:40


This week…


Handball Frenzy
June 2nd @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
We’ve got new nets we want to try out and a new game for HSM!  Handball is a ton of fun and super easy to play!  We’ll all compete to see which group get snacks.  We are also continuing with Part 3 of our Limitless series.

Next week…

Love Winnipeg
June 9th @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
Every year we go out of our way to show love to our city!  This year we are handing out water bottles in Osborne Village and blessing people as they pass by!  This is a great way to show the love of Jesus is practical ways.  We meet at the church!

The week after that…

Survive College
June 16th @ 7:11pm—10:00pm
Some of you are transitioning to the next part of your life journey!  We will have a few College Themed Ideas as well as speak a little bit about college!  We will also finish up our last series called Limitless!


By the way!  For at least 2 years we have been supporting Simon Munyaneza as our sponsor child!  We hope that our students might have the opportunity to be generous through this sponsorship.  We take an offering almost every Friday and invite our students to participate.  All of the money goes straight to Simon!

MONTHLY CALENDAR

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Did You Know Companionship Enriches Love Like Nothing Else?

Just Call Me Pastor - Mon, 05/29/2017 - 11:00

He was well into his 90s and had a girlfriend. He told me with quiet pleasure about their closeness. He was sure God had brought them together.

The attraction had not been created by youthful beauty, or erotic passion. It was something even more substantial — a shared need to give and receive companionship.

That is, each had a need for someone with whom to share life at the deeper levels. It was a human yearning experienced to a greater or lesser degree by us all.

The word, companionship, comes from a French compound word meaning to partake of bread together. Human companionship is an interpersonal relationship that’s like sitting down together for an intimate exchange of interests, goals or even just long chats. Both parties are enriched thereby.

But intimacy is not enough. Undergirding this kind of sharing there must be trust, honesty, loyalty, and sometimes gentle candor. It can be man-to-woman as with my friend, or woman-to-woman or man-to-man.

Take the case of Jonathan and David in the Bible. Jonathan was King Saul’s son and David was King Saul’s servant. Jonathan and David had a deep, binding friendship, but Jonathan’s father was jealous of David and had impulses to hurt him.

Jonathan saw David’s life as under threat. So why didn’t Jonathan side with his father anyway? Isn’t “blood thicker than water?” For Jonathan, justice for David was a higher value than facilitating his father’s murderous jealousy.

The Book of Proverbs says: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17) Real companionship includes amazing loyalty “at all times,” even when a crisis might threaten a relationship.

The Book of Proverbs also says: “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (18:24).

That is, if we embrace all offered friendships without discrimination, we may discover when a special need surfaces that many of those friends are only “fair weather companions.”

But, there is such a thing as enduring, storm-tested companionship, but it must be sought out and nurtured with care. Real companions, the Proverbs seem to caution, are one in a thousand.

The elderly gentleman who told me of his wonderful discovery had certainly found companionship. The two exchanged glances, shared resources at lunch, and participated together deeply in their common faith.

It’s good to ask ourselves from time to time: do I experience the companionship that nurtures health and enriches my life. And does it at the same time add enrichment to the life of someone else, reflecting my capacity to be loyal and truthful?

We should all be working on this because, whether in a friendship or a marriage, companionship undergirds love like nothing else. Without real companionship even marital love may wear a bit ragged.

Photo credit: Jake Guild (via flickr.com)


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High School Ministry Weekly May 26th

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Tue, 05/23/2017 - 21:10


This week…

Missions Night & Local Missions Trip—COST $15

May 26th– 7:11pm  to May 27th – 10:00pm
FRIDAY NIGHT IS FREE & A NORMAL YOUTH FRIDAY WITH A MISSIONS FOCUS!  So, be sure to come out anyways!
Going on a mission trip is not just for foreign countries, it’s also for our own city.  We will be serving local charities and learning about the needs of our city.
SIGN-UP Needed
Get Waivers HERE
Get More Information Including Itinerary HERE

Next week…

Handball Frenzy
June 2nd @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
We’ve got new nets we want to try out and a new game for HSM!  Handball is a ton of fun and super easy to play!  We’ll all compete to see which group get snacks.  We are also continuing with Part 3 of our Limitless series.

The week after that…

Love Winnipeg
June 9th @ 7:11pm – 10:00pm
Every year we go out of our way to show love to our city!  This year we are handing out water bottles in Osborne Village and blessing people as they pass by!  This is a great way to show the love of Jesus is practical ways.  We meet at the church!


By the way!  For at least 2 years we have been supporting Simon Munyaneza as our sponsor child!  We hope that our students might have the opportunity to be generous through this sponsorship.  We take an offering almost every Friday and invite our students to participate.  All of the money goes straight to Simon!

MONTHLY CALENDAR

  Click here for this month’s calendar

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Threshold Jr – May 24 – Game Show Wednesday **Also important information about next week!

Mark Hughes (Church of the Rock) - Tue, 05/23/2017 - 16:47
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THIS WEEK (Grade 6-8)

Game Show Wednesday +
If I Could Ask God Anything… Pt 2

Come for the last opportunity to be a game show contestant of the school year
and win some prizes!
Also we continue “If I Could Ask God Anything”

Wednesday May 24, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 


NEXT WEEK

Love Winnipeg
We will be packing backpacks for homeless
people in Winnipeg!
Donations needed!
New or Gently-Used Items:
Backpacks (for adults), mitts, toques, scarves, blankets

New Items:
Deodorant, sanitary napkins, socks, long underwear, toothbrushes,
toothpaste, soap, body wash, body lotion, shampoo, conditioner,
disposable razors, granola bars, bottles of water, juice, travel mugs,
pocket size Kleenex, decks of cards, lip balm, hard candy

 

Wednesday May 31, 2017
7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.
Church of the Rock
Cost: FREE
 

 

MEET OUR SPONSOR CHILD!

Each week we collect an offering
for our sponsor child Simon
& for other missions projects

 

MONTHLY CALENDAR

Click here for this month’s calendar

 

If you no longer wish to receive these emails, please reply and say “Unsubscribe” (DO NOT click on the “Unsubscribe” link below).

Church of the Rock 1397 Buffalo Place Winnipeg, MB R3T 1L6 Phone: (204)261-0070 or 1-877-700-ROCK (7625) Email: tim@churchoftherock.ca (Tim Hamm)

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Re-post: Mending Fences

Just Call Me Pastor - Mon, 05/22/2017 - 11:00

In 1956, when I was a young pastor in the Pacific Northwest Conference, the late Reverend C. W. Burbank was my conference superintendent. I had been appointed to the New Westminster church on the Lower Mainland of British Columbia, and Kathleen and I had crossed the continent from Kentucky immediately after my graduation from Asbury Seminary. Our personal belongings and four little children were packed into our turquoise colored Plymouth and a large spring-less trailer joggled along behind us every mile of the way.

Before Superintendent Burbank entered the ministry he was a logger. He had an outdoors ruggedness about him. He was not a seminary trained man; back then, seminary training for ministers was less common and more difficult to attain than now. Many pastors of earlier eras got whatever theological training they received by means of serious correspondence courses they were expected to wade through.

But he was an urgent preacher, well respected by his peers, and a man of down-to-earth common sense, something he learned or polished, as I understand, while in the logging business in the Okanagan Valley of Washington State.

During one of my first conversations with him he shared a bit of wisdom. He explained that some ministers are more skilled at mending their fences than others. He meant that when a misunderstanding or even an unintended interpersonal rift developed, such pastors seem to have a knack for restoring trusting relationships.

Others, he went on, leave the gap unaddressed and allow it to take on a certain permanence. If this happens with another family, and then another, Rev. Burbank explained, the misunderstandings accumulate sufficiently to destroy the trust of the congregation as a whole. A wall develops and the minister loses the trust of the congregation and he must move on.

Rev. Burbank didn’t say exactly how to recover healthy relationships. Nor did he mention what to do if a pastor’s efforts to keep fences mended are rejected. That is another aspect of the issue, and there are such situations. To take his counsel a step further, here are a couple more suggestions.

First, the greatest hindrance to correcting wounded relationships is pride – that dangerous quality within us that makes us tend to over-rate our worth or abilities. Pride is a point of vulnerability with all of us, Christian or not. When something is said or done from either side that injures our self esteem the rift is in danger of opening. Before repair can even be attempted pride must be acknowledged and brought to heel.

Second, once a rift happens, anger tends to follow and it invariably only clouds issues. So, no correction should be attempted until anger has been faced and dissipated. Most of us have learned this lesson by unhappy experience. In the face of breakdown of relationship and accompanying anger, only the indwelling Spirit of Christ can save us from further anger-prompted division.

Third, wise pastors will know that once in awhile, a relationship may grow cool or may even seem beyond repair. This may be due to disagreement on a particular issue. Or it may arise when a parishioner seems to have a fixed point of view about some circumstance. In these sorts of cases, when honest efforts have been made to restore relationship and fellowship—without success—ministers should labor on. As all pastors learn, in a busy growing pastorate there will be those who do not agree with the minister on issues. After honest efforts have been made to seek corrected and restored fellowship — without success — ministers should go on with their work diligently, all the while treating objectors with civility and grace. Only humility can keep the door open to the other person permanently. And it can only be hoped that the minister’s continued faithful service to the congregation will bear fruit and that eventually hearts will melt and be reconciled.

Ministers are much more likely to stay afloat in troubled waters and navigate through rocky relationships if they remember that their ultimate accountability for their efforts is to God. Their hope is that God may be pleased, since it is to him they will finally answer. Just remembering this makes them more careful to avoid missteps.

Mending fences is not only a challenge to ministers. Broken relationships are a universal peril in our fallen world. It would be hard to find someone of mature years who does not have a measure of pain over damaged relationships and even unresolved relationship issues at this point. So ministers and laymen alike need strength and grace help in the arduous task of living openly and charitably — insofar as possible — with all. Praying for increased sensitivity to the needs of others for Christ’s sake is the starting point.

Many years after our conversation, Rev. Burbank died in the pulpit while doing what he loved — preaching the gospel. I am just one of many who profited from his ministerial leadership and wise counsel. His insight regarding mending fences was a lifelong gift, not always exercised to the greatest effectiveness, but always treasured.

Photo credit: Josh Liba (via flickr.com)


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